You have a stubborn person in the family (deal with him like this) – ryan
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What are the characteristics of stubborn personality? How do we deal with the stubborn person in the family? D. Ahmed Abdel Aziz Al -Najjar _ Professor of Social Psychology at Emirates University
Q: What are the characteristics of stubborn personality?
He is a hasty, immature person in terms of emotion and emotions, sensitive, centered around himself, suspicions, and politicians, weak breath, lacks the goal in life.
In short, there are three basic characteristics:
1- A person who has a problem with the way of thinking, and he is always negative, I mean, he understands others, and when he thinks about any situation he takes as a challenge.
2- Weak in communicating with others and unable to understand people.
3- He has a problem with the skill of self-expression, as it expresses himself stubborn.
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The same person is divided into four aspects, meaning that the mental age of a person should be proportional to the physical age and with the psychological age and is proportional to the social age, and this means that there is harmony, but the stubborn person has a difference in this aspect.
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What are the types of stubbornness?
1- Negative resistance: obey but complain.
2- The apparent challenge: I am ready for the battle at any time.
3- Harmful stubbornness: I mean, he asks something to do the opposite.
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The reasons for the human direction of stubbornness according to the opinions of people:
*Until his opinion walks.
*heredity.
*Returning to the nature of man.
*Education and the problems of the spouses bring children to stubbornness.
*Because of frustration or to fulfill a certain desire.
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*The reasons for the human direction of stubbornness, according to Dr. Al -Najjar:
1- Not maturity, means that he is unable to distinguish between error and right.
2- Self-concentration, sees himself as the center of the universe.
3- Crapping with others, a person learns mistakes from parents or those around him.
4- Cursing: It means the space that I give to others in my dealings with them. For example, we raise our children to stubbornness when we force them to obey us.
5- Stress: When a person is tired, he acts emotionally.
6- Genetics is a big factor, we inherit from parents the efficiency of the nervous system and the tomorrow.
7- Psychological flexibility: The more comfortable and happy in his marital and family relationship, the more flexible.
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Question: I have a very stubborn child and she was not deterred until after she was hit twice. Is hitting a way to deter stubborn children and is she always useful.
_ Because the child is two years old, she is not conscious, so we should not use the method of multiplication, the beating may benefit sometimes, but it has many risks.
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*What is the difference between women’s anti -man’s stubbornness?
The woman is emotional, so she is eligible to be more stubborn than a man, and what we notice is that the working woman is more inclined to stubbornness than the housewife. The social data says that the man is heard, so he does not need stubbornness.
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*What is the difference between the heumbeat of young and old?
_ The little is often resources with grumbling and violation.
Inductive behavior appears in a group of age sites more, for example, it may appear in the first child, or the second because it is jealous of the older than it, or the last because it is spoiled, or the boy who is between the girls.
The stubbornness of children appears from the stage of 2_3 years, and it appears in very lenient families. When we ask children to study in a certain hour, stubbornness may take them, science has proven that a person has a certain biological hour, i.e. an hour in which he has a high willingness.
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A: Usually families improve the willingness of the new baby in terms of longing, but they do not improve the psychological readiness of the old children, and it is understood that each child has his own place and when the new baby comes, the old feels that he has taken his place.
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*The high level of intelligence in a manner that is not commensurate with emotional or emotional growth generates stubbornness.
*How can a stubborn person deal? What is prevention?
1- By building a strong emotional relationship and breaking the barriers.
2- Achieving personal demands.
3- Stay away from extreme domination and indulgence.
4- Make the family atmosphere comfortable and enjoyable.
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How do you deal with a stubborn person?
1- Understanding and listening and there must be dialogue.
2- The presence of acceptance and expression of love.
3- Encouragement and cooperation.
4- Reducing the arguments and defenses.
5- Time and time, the change is always slow.
6- Interest or positive reinforcement: praising him.
7-The issue of reciprocity, but in a certain way.
8- Effective reprimand method.
9-Strengthening the relationship with the other party to compensate for the past mistakes.
10-Ignore the simple challenge.
11- Conclusion of agreements: If you do such and such.
12- Not issuing orders: When you understand that the other person issues orders, I will directly.
13- Searching for cooperative people such as uncle or uncle.
14- Avoid emotional situations.
15- Leave the other party room to express its emotions.
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*How is stubbornness?
_ The stubbornness is usually when we cannot adapt to the circumstances, for example, I am convinced of the one inside me and I cannot persuade the other party and stubborn.
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*How do you deal with your stubborn son?
The parents do not feel that the best way to treat stubbornness is stubbornness, or it means breaking iron with iron, as the method of understanding is the best.
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*What is the advice to the girl?
1- The human being has different specifications: the first important thing is its characteristics. There are wives who love the stubborn husband, but if her personality is strong, we do not advise her to do so.
2- The degree of stubbornness in the husband’s person, meaning if it stems from a feeling of inferiority, then we do not recommend it.
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*If I am going, how can I reduce that?
1- Emptying emotional energy in useful matters.
2- Converting: When I focus on a point I will consider the essence of life.
3- Send a relaxing condition at home.
4- Looking at life is a fun look.
5- Avoid deciding on important matters during emotion.
6- If someone makes you stubborn, stay away from him.
7- Raising the rate of positive events in life.
8- Improving physical conditions.
9- Attention to health: sports and physical activity.
10- Considering people of the balanced type.
Transferred for benefit, greetings
Sister Jinan Al -Hayat