Learn 5 such things that tell when your strict parents became toxic?

It is often that Indian parents must be strict many times. Parents are strict so that their child walks on the right track, studying well, returning home in time and moving forward in life. Indian parenting is usually done with love and a little rigor. Although children’s children are barely killed by their parents, but the children born in the 90s are very beaten! At the same time, the rigor of parents is excessive at the same time. They begin to interrupt every little thing, ignore the child’s feelings or try to dominate every decision. If this rigor gradually begins to harm the child’s mental health, it is called toxic parenting in the language of psychology. Many times parents accidentally become toxic and don’t even know about this. That’s why we talked to the Life and Mindset Coach Shweta Kothari and shared 5 signs from which to identify that your strict parents are no longer toxic. 1. What questions are being asked? Shweta Kothari says that strict parents make rules, but they know the reason behind it and also explain to the child. On the other hand, toxic parents want the child to listen to them without asking for anything. If you “why?” If you ask or try to say their words, your parents scold you or get angry. If the child is slowly but surely realizing that he has no right to ask, think or understand anything. If it is necessary for the child to say ‘yes’ about everything and ask questions, you must understand that strict parents become toxic. 2. Do you get love if you do something good? If parents only embrace the child or show love if they do something good, such as overcoming the exam or doing a good job. But if he makes a mistake, the parents stop talking to him or get away. If the child slowly but surely feels that he would only get love if he does something good. Love becomes a reward for him who is taken away from him when he made a mistake. With this, the child begins to connect his success with his self -values, and later it can become spiritual pressure for him. 3. Are your feelings taken lightly? If the child is unhappy, cry or express his feelings, the parents avoid it as ‘drama’. The child is said, “Don’t be so emotional, or why does he respond so much to such a little thing?” That is, instead of understanding the child’s feelings, it is evaluated incorrectly. When it happens again and again, the child is afraid to say his words and gradually he begins to feel upset, unhappy or empty from the inside. This is called emotional shutdown. 4. Do you get more advice and more tease? If the child makes a mistake, instead of explaining it, parents start scolding him. They start calling the child ringing, deads or worthless. Such words break the child inside. He begins to doubt himself and gradually begins to weaken his trust. 5. Do you get fear or feelings of guilt? Many times, parents say such sentences, which have a direct effect on the child’s heart. For example, if you really love, then you don’t, you will one day regret it. From such sentences, the child feels that if he does not listen to his parents, he is a bad person. In this case, the child does not make his decisions with joy, but of guilt. Love does not support him, but loves pressure.