I believe this is the hardest part about relationships.
Relationships put us face to face with ourselves.
They challenge us to look deeply inward and take responsibility in ways that being single can’t possibly do.
Recognizing our own toxic behaviors can initially trigger anxiety and depression.
It can be excruciating to finally (see) and (feel) all the ways we have hurt our loved ones.
It can cause us to want to run for the hills.
But I truly believe that being willing to look at ourselves and our unhealthy coping skills can be such a blessing.
Our partner gets to have someone that makes them feel validated, and loved, and seen even when (we) are the one contributing to their pain.
Doing this part of the work is what allows us to reap the benefits of a fulfilling partnership.
If we can learn to face and tolerate the parts of ourselves we (don’t) like .. I believe we can experience a relationship that can be even more rich and honest and more extraordinary than anything we imagined possible.